Getting What You Want Out of Life

When you signed up for this newsletter, I mentioned that I’m just a girl who gets what she wants out of life.

It might sound bold, but it’s how I’ve lived—understanding that life is what’s right in front of you, and it’s all up to you.

If I want to succeed, I’m responsible for making it happen. If I fail, I’m responsible for that too.

At 15, I had no clue what I wanted from life at 25.

I thought I’d study hard, become an engineer, move to the US, and settle into a job. But that all changed when I discovered poetry and photography.

My entire outlook flipped. I made new friends, changed my mindset, and fought for the life I wanted—against the odds, against expectations, and even against myself.

Here’s how I’ve approached getting what I want:

1. Be Ready for Opportunities

Opportunities don’t always come knocking, but when they do, you need to be ready.

Recognize the signs, take charge, and go with the flow.

2. Be a Rebel

You’re going to have to protect your ideas.

It’ll be tough, but it’s always worth it. My favorite line from The Pursuit of Happyness sums it up: “Don’t ever let somebody tell you you can’t do something.”

3. Work Hard and Smart

As Naval says, "What you choose to work on, and who you choose to work with, are far more important than how hard you work."

Hard work and smart work go hand in hand. The harder you work, the luckier you get, and before you know it, you’ll be that “overnight success” that took 10 years.

4. It Can Get Lonely

Chasing your dreams often means spending long hours alone, grinding.

There were times I spent days alone with my laptop, taking solo walks just to think. It’s not glamorous, but it’s necessary.

5. If It’s Not a Hell Yes, It’s a No

Learning to say no is key.

If something or someone doesn’t align with your long-term vision, don’t hesitate to walk away. Looking at life through a long-term lens makes it easier to know what truly matters.

6. Play a Positive-Sum Game

There’s enough success for everyone.

I try to support and encourage everyone I meet. Helping others chase their dreams doesn’t take away from mine.

7. Ask for Apology, Not Permission

One of my favorite quotes from Tim Ferriss is: "Beg for forgiveness; don't ask for permission". If you want something, go after it.

Don’t wait for the green light. Take action, and if you need to course-correct later, that’s fine.

And when things don’t go my way, I make sure I’ve pushed hard enough so there’s no regret.

What I am currently reading:

My favorite part of this book so far is this section.

I strongly believe in this one rule: no matter what happens, finish the job first, then sit with your feelings. This approach has helped me become a better team player—and, of course, keeps the drama out.

That’s all for today.

Keep building, and chase what you want with everything you’ve got. 😉

—Kanishka